Alcoholism is a family disease. The disease affects all those who have a relationship with a problem drinker. Those of us closest to the alcoholic suffer the most, and those who care the most can easily get caught up in the behavior of another person. We react to the alcoholic’s behavior. We focus on them, what they do, where they are, how much they drink. We try to control their drinking for them. We take on the blame, guilt, and shame that really belong to the drinker. We can become as addicted to the alcoholic, as the alcoholic is to alcohol. We, too, can become ill.
Welcome! We are so glad that you are interested in finding out about Overeater’s Anonymous. In OA we are brought together because our relationship with food is negatively affecting the way we live our lives and how we feel about ourselves. It doesn’t matter if we are overeating, purging, restricting or binging. We can be overweight, underweight or at a normal weight. Food and our thoughts about food are causing us pain and unhappiness, physically, spiritually and emotionally. We have discovered that it is a disease and that we are powerless over as we have repeatedly tried and failed to control our food behaviors. In OA we have found a group of people who support and understand us and accept us just the way we are and are willing to walk with us as we work to come to peace with food and ourselves.
NA offers addicts a way to live drug-free. Nonaddicted people don’t spend their time wondering if they’re addicts. They don’t even think about it. If you’re wondering whether or not you’re an addict, you might be one. Just allow yourself the time to listen to us share about what it has been like for us. Perhaps you will hear something that sounds familiar to you. It doesn’t matter whether or not you have used the same drugs others mention. It is not important which drugs you used; you’re welcome here if you want to stop using. Most addicts experience very similar feelings, and it is in focusing on our similarities, rather than our differences, that we are helpful to one another.
We welcome you to Co-Dependents Anonymous, a program of recovery from codependence. Most of us have been searching for ways to overcome the dilemmas of the conflicts in our relationships and our childhoods. Many of us were raised in families where addictions existed – some of us were not. In either case, we have found in each of our lives that codependence is a most deeply rooted compulsive behavior. We attempted to use others – our mates, friends, and even our children, as our sole source of identity, value and well being, and as a way of trying to restore within us the emotional losses from our childhoods. Our histories may include other powerful addictions which at times we have used to cope with our codependence.
The only requirement for membership in Gamblers Anonymous is a desire to stop gambling. Most of us have been unwilling to admit we were real problem gamblers. Therefore, it is not surprising that our gambling careers have been characterized by countless vain attempts to prove we could gamble like other people. The idea that somehow, some day, we will control our gambling is the great obsession of every compulsive gambler. We are convinced that gamblers of our type are in the grip of a progressive illness. Over any considerable period of time, we get worse, never better.